Andrew Raia

So what does my wife mean to me? Let me start by saying my wife means EVERYTHING to me.

Let me start by saying marriage gets put down a lot, it gets a bad reputation, and in general people do not look at it as a good thing. Why do people get married if they talk bad about it? Personally I think a lot of people do it because we think we SHOULD do it. I don’t think a lot of people REALLY understand what marriage means and they expect it to be some easy road where things just work out and fall in to place. Marriage is like anything else in life, you get out of it what you put into it. So if you put nothing in, you will get nothing out.

There have been points throughout my marriage where I have felt less than spectacular, but recently I have done a lot of reflecting and realized that it was my own fault for not putting in as much effort as I should have been. So I cannot even tell you how happy I have been in my marriage since I have started working towards a happier marriage and putting in the effort it deserves.

The root if this happiness however, does not stem from my own efforts or anything I personally have done. It all stems from my wife Jessica. Who would want to work towards something if there wasn’t really anything worth working for? I love my wife, and making her happy is my ultimate goal, and THAT alone makes me happy. I don’t care what she does or doesn’t do for me, I find happiness in seeing her happy. To me that is the ultimate sacrifice of love. I would spend an eternity being miserable if it meant she was happy.

See the great thing is, when you are with that special someone, all the love and happiness you give, you also get in return. I will be the first to admit as I stated earlier that I wasn’t putting in what I should have, but Jessica never faltered in what she put into this marriage. She is one amazing woman and all these words I use to describe how awesome she is, will never even capture 1/10th of the woman she is.

When I hear about a Godly woman, and what God designed woman to be, I see all of that in my wife. The most obvious thing is her nurturing side. This I think is most apparent to everyone on the outside. One of the reasons I fell madly in love with her was because of this. She used to babysit FIVE kids for many years. I KNEW she would be an amazing mother, and I always wanted a family so that ranked very high on my list. I don’t need to expand on this because I believe it is faily obvious.

Another great characteristic that many people may not see is her loyalty. She lives and dies for me. If anything so much as a mosquito bit me, she squish the thing before it had a chance to finish biting me. She will do (and has done) anything for me. She is completely selfless in this regard, an area where I have just recently began to return to her. She will defend her family and friends to no end. Some people may see this as a fault or something else, but no one can understand the feeling of having someone stand behind you no matter what, especially in a me first society. The bible tells us to always stand behind our spouse, even if they are wrong, that is something I have struggled with as well but have recently grown in.

She is also extremely supportive. I see how so many people come to her for comfort and to talk. I always joke with her that she should have gotten a degree in physchiatry. I am constantly amazed at the amount of counseling she does with friends and family, she is extremely easy to open up to and always has something encouraging to say. No matter what issues I may be facing, I know that I can always go to her for comfort. Many of you know the issues we face with our daughter’s medical condition, she is always the strong one when dealing with these issues. I always wish I had her strength to deal with things.

The other thing that amazes me about my wife is her emotions. She wears her heart on her sleeve. Some people would think she is overly emotional with certain things, but they really don’t understand at all. If everyone actually felt how strongly she felt about things, the world would really be a better place. She loves her friends and family so much, its amazing to see how much a stray comment can sting. The bible says our tongues are like swords, we do not realize how much damage we can do with one bad word. I myself always bury things, its just the way I have learned to deal with things. In reality I am not dealing with them at all. Picture yourself as a cup, you fill yourself up with burried emotions, until you can’t fit in anymore. You have no room for love or any other emotions. You keep pushing more and more in until it just bursts and comes flying out. Thats why I think she has such a huge capacity for love, because she lets herself FEEL her emotions instead of hiding from them. I cannot tell you how much I envy that about her.

Jessica has to be one of the funniest people I have ever met. Most of you don’t get to see the silly/cute/funny/playful side. She has this funny habit of creating her own words when she accidently pronounces another word wrong, for example “crystalflowbic”, when she was trying to say claustrophobic. We have spent countless hours in bed just laughing uncontrollably at the silliest things. I love to laugh, comedies are my favorite types of movies, and I have to say that she keeps me laughing on a daily basis.

I really could go on forever with everything I love about my wife, but I would probably reach the limit of my database before I could finish. I guess the main thing about my wife that I feel (besides love of course) is INSPIRED. She makes me a better person, and she makes me want to be a better person. She really does mean everything to me and I don’t know what I would do without her. I honestly don’t know that I could survive without her by my side. There is no better feeling than coming home to a warm smile, big hug, and a passionate kiss.

Jessica, I know you are reading this (mostly because Ill be sending you the link when im done lol) so I want you to know what you mean to me, and that I will spend the rest of my life trying to make you happy, and I look forward to the rest of our lives together.